HI. Today's topic of the day is BOUNDARIES.
Disclaimer: I am no expert of relationships nor am I a love guru. But I have a say over what's been pissing me off lately. Just my two cents.
I have always thought that it is a no-brainer that when you're in a serious relationship with someone, you SHOULD have certain boundaries with other guys/girls.
But college proved me wrong (again) lol. College has proven me a lot of things wrong actually.
It's less about being close-minded but more about having respect for your other half. There must be a certain line that you cannot cross.
From what I observed, people tend to be so touchy for some weird reason. I don't know if it's just me and my bloody old traditional rules I set for myself, but I find those actions disgusting.
I don't see a need to be so physical with a normal guy/girl friend, ESPECIALLY when your guy/girl friend has a partner. Seriously. Don't you have any respect at all? What would they feel if they see you being so intimate with their "so-called best friend". No. It's unacceptable for me. Sure, you can have good friends. But there must be boundaries and limits.
This ain't being controllable over your other half, but allowing yourself to know your own worth. Do you like seeing your partner fooling around with other guys/girls when you're not around? Of course not. Unless you're crazy.
Talking about control.
Recently there had been many news about cheating (not gonna name who). It's really disappointing. To be honest, cheating has been so common that whenever I look at a happy couple I would automatically think to myself "Will one of them cheat in the future?" It's really unhealthy for me because I tend to be worried for a lot of people when I don't even know them lol.
I can't conclude that it happens mostly because of long distance because all the news I heard aren't -____- This is what I don't get. Why cheat when you get to spend quality time with your other half everyday? My brother said it's because they get bored of their other half and wants to find someone fresh. I have no idea what these people are thinking so I won't comment much (though I've already commented about it wtf)
But for those who are mentally cheating with someon "new" or someone "special", please have some self-control and know what you're worth. THINK about what your other half would feel if they found out. THINK about what YOU would feel if your other half cheated on you. Please. Just because he/she might be better than your other half, think about all the hardships you've gone through together. Who was there when you needed a place of comfort? Think about it.
In conclusion, don't do anything you wouldn't want your other half to do. (unless both of you like to be touchy touchy and intimate and aimei(sorry I cannot type Chinese my laptop got problem LOL) with other people la wtf then I don't know what kind of r/s you're having alrdy.)
Stay strong couples.
Disclaimer: I am no expert of relationships nor am I a love guru. But I have a say over what's been pissing me off lately. Just my two cents.
I have always thought that it is a no-brainer that when you're in a serious relationship with someone, you SHOULD have certain boundaries with other guys/girls.
But college proved me wrong (again) lol. College has proven me a lot of things wrong actually.
It's less about being close-minded but more about having respect for your other half. There must be a certain line that you cannot cross.
From what I observed, people tend to be so touchy for some weird reason. I don't know if it's just me and my bloody old traditional rules I set for myself, but I find those actions disgusting.
I don't see a need to be so physical with a normal guy/girl friend, ESPECIALLY when your guy/girl friend has a partner. Seriously. Don't you have any respect at all? What would they feel if they see you being so intimate with their "so-called best friend". No. It's unacceptable for me. Sure, you can have good friends. But there must be boundaries and limits.
This ain't being controllable over your other half, but allowing yourself to know your own worth. Do you like seeing your partner fooling around with other guys/girls when you're not around? Of course not. Unless you're crazy.
Talking about control.
Recently there had been many news about cheating (not gonna name who). It's really disappointing. To be honest, cheating has been so common that whenever I look at a happy couple I would automatically think to myself "Will one of them cheat in the future?" It's really unhealthy for me because I tend to be worried for a lot of people when I don't even know them lol.
I can't conclude that it happens mostly because of long distance because all the news I heard aren't -____- This is what I don't get. Why cheat when you get to spend quality time with your other half everyday? My brother said it's because they get bored of their other half and wants to find someone fresh. I have no idea what these people are thinking so I won't comment much (though I've already commented about it wtf)
But for those who are mentally cheating with someon "new" or someone "special", please have some self-control and know what you're worth. THINK about what your other half would feel if they found out. THINK about what YOU would feel if your other half cheated on you. Please. Just because he/she might be better than your other half, think about all the hardships you've gone through together. Who was there when you needed a place of comfort? Think about it.
In conclusion, don't do anything you wouldn't want your other half to do. (unless both of you like to be touchy touchy and intimate and aimei(sorry I cannot type Chinese my laptop got problem LOL) with other people la wtf then I don't know what kind of r/s you're having alrdy.)
Stay strong couples.
x
Celine
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