Just my two cents.
Recently, I saw a lot of articles about relationships on Facebook. It's one of those "If your boyfriend does this, then he is the One" or "23 things couples should have done in their relationship" articles. At first I liked reading them. But then slowly, a lot of the same type of articles come about and it's getting kinda stupid because every article has different elements but with the same title. Once I even saw an article titled something like "Reasons why you must leave the Nice Guy". So freaking absurd. The author commented that you should leave the nice guy because he doesn't ignite the spark in you. Lol. It's just you. It doesn't mean it can be applied to everyone. Don't drag everyone into believing that we should all chuck the nice guys aside because of your own thoughts. I just hope people don't get influenced by the article too much.
Anyway, back to the topic, Expectations. I'm sure most people would read those articles and mentally tick off the points if he/she has ever done something in the list. I know I did HAHAHAHA. Aiya. I'm sure people do that what. Or not why will you even click on the link in the first place right? :P
I read someone's Dayre the other day saying that she had some tough times with her boyfriend because of these articles. Of course the main source of the quarreling isn't about the articles but the articles played a role in it. She said she had expectations inked in her mind that's why she gets upset when her boyfriend doesn't do it.
You see, that's the thing. We allow the internet to absorb us into believing that our relationships should be "like this". It should be "this way" and "that way". We're inserting that standard in our minds and letting it control us. Okay, I know not everyone does that, but I know most girls do that. They expect too much from their boyfriends till the point that the guys can't take it anymore. Seriously, don't do that okay. It's annoying and unfair. Remember that they don't owe you shit neither are they obliged to serve you as if you're a princess.
Just read the articles for fun and take it lightly. The authors are humans too. Most of the articles are just based on their own perspective and experiences. Sure, some are totally legit and true. Sure, you feel that you've experienced the same thing as the author. But what if you don't? What if you've never experienced those things mentioned by the author? Do you get sad? Love is not Science. It does not need specific research to prove anything.
Everybody has their own way of loving someone. It doesn't have to be this or that to prove that you love him/her. So don't get pissed off when your boyfriend doesn't buy you gifts. He has other ways of showing his love. Don't expect too much because those expectations will only kill you. And love exists to build you up, not to kill you.
Recently, I saw a lot of articles about relationships on Facebook. It's one of those "If your boyfriend does this, then he is the One" or "23 things couples should have done in their relationship" articles. At first I liked reading them. But then slowly, a lot of the same type of articles come about and it's getting kinda stupid because every article has different elements but with the same title. Once I even saw an article titled something like "Reasons why you must leave the Nice Guy". So freaking absurd. The author commented that you should leave the nice guy because he doesn't ignite the spark in you. Lol. It's just you. It doesn't mean it can be applied to everyone. Don't drag everyone into believing that we should all chuck the nice guys aside because of your own thoughts. I just hope people don't get influenced by the article too much.
Anyway, back to the topic, Expectations. I'm sure most people would read those articles and mentally tick off the points if he/she has ever done something in the list. I know I did HAHAHAHA. Aiya. I'm sure people do that what. Or not why will you even click on the link in the first place right? :P
I read someone's Dayre the other day saying that she had some tough times with her boyfriend because of these articles. Of course the main source of the quarreling isn't about the articles but the articles played a role in it. She said she had expectations inked in her mind that's why she gets upset when her boyfriend doesn't do it.
You see, that's the thing. We allow the internet to absorb us into believing that our relationships should be "like this". It should be "this way" and "that way". We're inserting that standard in our minds and letting it control us. Okay, I know not everyone does that, but I know most girls do that. They expect too much from their boyfriends till the point that the guys can't take it anymore. Seriously, don't do that okay. It's annoying and unfair. Remember that they don't owe you shit neither are they obliged to serve you as if you're a princess.
Just read the articles for fun and take it lightly. The authors are humans too. Most of the articles are just based on their own perspective and experiences. Sure, some are totally legit and true. Sure, you feel that you've experienced the same thing as the author. But what if you don't? What if you've never experienced those things mentioned by the author? Do you get sad? Love is not Science. It does not need specific research to prove anything.
Everybody has their own way of loving someone. It doesn't have to be this or that to prove that you love him/her. So don't get pissed off when your boyfriend doesn't buy you gifts. He has other ways of showing his love. Don't expect too much because those expectations will only kill you. And love exists to build you up, not to kill you.
x
Celine
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